The impact sexual assault has on men

THE IMPACT SEXUAL ABUSE HAS ON MEN

Below is a list of the common reactions of someone who has fallen victim to a sexual assault. Anyone who has been sexually abused will react in a certain way and experience lasting effects and shifting emotions. The survivor will not necessarily experience all of the following symptoms but is very likely to show at least one or two. These symptoms are common to both males and females of sexual abuse.

  • Anger
  • Anxiety
  • Sadness
  • Confusion
  • Fear
  • Flashbacks
  • Numbness
  • Self-blame
  • Guilt
  • Helplessness
  • Hopelessness
  • Suicidal feelings
  • Shame
  • Sexual dysfunction

Like women, men are also likely to experience post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), depression and an array of emotions, yet due to gender socialisation and upbringing men find it a lot more difficult to come to terms with what they are facing. For more information on facing problems and dealing with sexual abuse, take a look at the article “Support For A Male After A Sexual Assault” above on our page.

Some unique reactions, only affecting men following a sexual assault include the symptoms below:

  • Tend to show more aggression  and hostility than fear and tearfulness
  • Very likely to begin questioning their sexual identity or orientation
  • Downplaying the severity of the experience, making it seem as if the sexual abuse had no importance or traumatic value
  • Acting out or expressing emotion through sexual nuances or hints

Some symptoms may differ between men and women as recognised above, but whether male or female, we are all human and we all feel and hurt, this is real, this is serious, this can be treated and we will win the fight to become a thriver.

Nelson Mandela

"As I walked out the door towards my freedom, I knew that if I did not leave all the anger, hatred and bitterness behind, I would still be in prison"

IT’S NOT YOUR FAULT

People from all walks of life can be a victim of sexual abuse. It doesn’t matter your age, race or cultural background, everyone is at risk of becoming a victim. It must be known that you did not choose for this to happen to you, there is nothing specific about you that makes you more vulnerable to this abuse. Sexual abuse, like any form of abuse is a criminal offence and is never the fault of the person it happens to. It doesn’t matter whether you were drinking or drugging. It doesn’t matter what you were wearing or saying. It doesn’t matter if you knew the abuser or were having an argument. You are, Under No Circumstances responsible for being assaulted or sexually abused. The person who did this to you is the only person responsible for your sexual assault; they are the ones to blame.