Things to look at

THINGS TO LOOK AT

In the American Journal of Men’s Health, an article “Speaking About the Unspeakable: Sexually Abused Men Striving Toward Language”, written by Torbjorn Herlof Anderson. Anderson’s research includes tape –recorded interviews with 15 Norwegian adult males who had been sexually abused during adolescence and delves into the understanding behind male sexual abuse.

One of the interesting topics mentioned in this research is that of Secrecy and Lack of Worth and Worthiness. In these above headings, Anderson explains male sexual abuse as a “double taboo” and discusses the aspects of secrecy verses disclosure of telling ones sexual abuse story. The traces of fear involved with disclosing this information remains one of the great challenges in creating awareness of male sexual abuse, as a lot of the time secrecy is seen as keeping control. The article further looks at the feelings of the participants during their encounters and in several of the accounts, the experience of no control and feelings of worthlessness.

To read the complete article, go to http://jmh.sagepub.com/cgi/content/abstract/2/1/25

 

As some of you may not have known, Oprah Winfrey is heavily involved in creating awareness on male sexual abuse, child molestation and their respective recovery processes. The links below prove very interesting and informative and are well worth in taking a look at

Male Sexual Abuse Survivors Stand Together: http://www.oprah.com/oprahshow/Male-Sexual-Abuse-Survivors-Stand-Together

Road to Recovery: 7 Ways to Help a Male Sexual Abuse Survivor Heal http://www.oprah.com/oprahshow/The-Road-to-Recovery-7-Steps-to-help-a-Male-Sexual-Abuse-Survivor-Heal

Lasting Effects of Male Sexual Abuse http://www.oprah.com/oprahshow/The-Aftermath-of-Male-Sexual-Abuse_1

How to Help Your Partner Cope with Male Sexual Abuse http://www.oprah.com/oprahshow/How-to-Help-Your-Partner-Cope-with-Male-Sexual-Abuse/print

Sexual Abuse Survivors’ First Steps Toward Healing http://www.oprah.com/oprahshow/Sexual-Abuse-Survivors-First-Steps-Toward-Healing

4 Things You Need to Know About Child Molestation http://www.oprah.com/oprahshow/4-Things-to-Know-About-Child-Molestation

Child Sexual Abuse: 6 Stages of Grooming http://www.oprah.com/oprahshow/child-sexual-abuse-6-stages-of-grooming

Was a Man in Your Life Abused? http://www.oprah.com/relationships/Was-a-Man-in-Your-Life-Abused

Nelson Mandela

"As I walked out the door towards my freedom, I knew that if I did not leave all the anger, hatred and bitterness behind, I would still be in prison"

IT’S NOT YOUR FAULT

People from all walks of life can be a victim of sexual abuse. It doesn’t matter your age, race or cultural background, everyone is at risk of becoming a victim. It must be known that you did not choose for this to happen to you, there is nothing specific about you that makes you more vulnerable to this abuse. Sexual abuse, like any form of abuse is a criminal offence and is never the fault of the person it happens to. It doesn’t matter whether you were drinking or drugging. It doesn’t matter what you were wearing or saying. It doesn’t matter if you knew the abuser or were having an argument. You are, Under No Circumstances responsible for being assaulted or sexually abused. The person who did this to you is the only person responsible for your sexual assault; they are the ones to blame.